Relationships can be challenging. They offer the most potential for joy but can be a great source of stress in many people’s lives. Relationships take work and effort. When they are not going well it can be a very trying and painful time. Couples can feel alone, fearful, anxious, angry and frustrated and can begin to doubt their partner and their relationship. When we feel that someone is doing us harm or behaving ill towards us it is often but not always a sign that points to where we need to make a shift in ourselves. Problems are reciprocal and the management and responsibility belong to both parties involved. Change our thoughts, actions and our reactions instead of trying to change others. The challenges of a relationship can result in partners feeling they need to leave a “hopeless” situation, but sometimes the difficult parts are what we need to stay with and offer the most opportunity for growth.